11 Secrets Of A Happy Mom – A Letter To My Daughter

Being a mom is something else! It’s an experience that is really hard to explain in words. I have tried to find one word that describes motherhood and have come to the conclusion that it is: EVERYTHING.

Everything easy and everything hard. Everything happy and everything crazy. It is everything exciting and everything exhausting. It is everything loving and even everything I imagined and more.

My two-year-old can’t wait to be a mom one day. It’s amazing to watch how at such a young age, they can pick up on…well EVERYTHING!

I was just watching her rock her little baby doll back and forth in her rocking chair. As she fed her a bottle and wrapped her up in a swaddle blanket, she whispered in her ear, “Shhhh… it’s okay baby! I am here!” And kissed her little forehead.

It was at that moment that I realized I am one HAPPY mom. I love her!! I absolutely LOVE being her mom!

In her eyes, motherhood is a dream.

In her little imagination, with a simple swaddle blanket and bottle, all babies will stop crying instantly and everything works out. When in reality, as she gets older and one day becomes a REAL mom, she will quickly learn that motherhood can actually be really tough – and you need a lot more than just a blanket and bottle.

Being a mom is hard. I mean, SO hard. It is scary and nerve racking. Your patience gets tested and tears come out of your eyes. Some days are really long – I mean like REALLY long. So long that you think five hours has gone by and you look at the clock and it has actually only been five minutes.

But today I want my girl to know, that even when life gets hard – she can find joy.

And one day, when she is rocking her swaddled little baby and trying to put a bottle in it’s perfect teeny mouth and the baby STILL cries and she is exhausted and doesn’t know what in the WORLD to do – that I promise she can find happiness.

That even when bad days come, she can remember these TEN Secrets Of A Happy Mom to help her find joy in motherhood.

 

Photography by Christine Olson Photography 

1. I HOPE YOU LEARN THAT A SMILE IS ALWAYS WORTH FINDING: Happy moms find their smiles daily. When you wake up in the morning, find your smile. As the mom in the household, you get to set the tone in your home. Before you get out of bed, tell yourself that it is going to be a good day.

2. I HOPE YOU AREN’T AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES: Because happy moms DO make mistakes! And they learn from them. Nobody is perfect, even though it may seem like some people are. Your friends will make mistakes. Bloggers you read about online make mistakes. I {your own mom!} makes a lot of mistakes. But don’t be afraid – because “mistakes have the power to turn you into something even BETTER than you were before!”

3. I HOPE YOU LOVE THOSE THAT ARE HARD TO LOVE: Happy moms love everyone. Even those that are mean to you. People will hurt you and say bad things – but don’t let them bring you down. You know who you are and stay strong to that. Look for ways to serve. Serve your friends and serve our neighbors. And always remember to forgive and forget. “People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.”

4. I HOPE YOU GET SPOILED LIKE YOU DESERVE: Because guess what? Happy moms spoil themselves! You HAVE to take care of YOU. Do something for yourself every day – take a bath. Read a book. Say a prayer. Go shopping. Take a nap. Eat chocolate. It all begins with YOU. Take care of yourself so you can take care of those around you.

5. I HOPE YOU LAUGH AT YOUR TRIALS: Because they are meant to make you shine. Happy moms have really bad things happen to them. When trials come your way – it’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to cry and it’s okay to not understand. But pick yourself up and remember that good things are to come.

6. I HOPE YOU NEVER FORGET WHO YOU ARE: Happy moms know exactly who they are, where they came from and where they are going. You are a daughter of God. You have the GREATEST potential. You are more than what you can even imagine. James E. Faust said, “There is no greater good in all the world than motherhood! The influence of a mother in the lives of her children is beyond calculation.” You are irreplaceable.

7. I HOPE YOU IGNORE SOMEONE TELLING YOU “YOU CAN’T”: Because happy moms know that they CAN. And they WILL! AND they DO! Don’t compare your life to others – especially to what you see on Social Media or what you think you see in them. You can do ANYTHING you put your mind to. And you can become whoever you want to be.

8. I HOPE YOU BECOME BETTER THAN I AM: Happy moms look for good examples. Make a list of women you love and the qualities they hold that you want. Then put it somewhere you can look at every night. Focus on one quality each week and become the very best YOU.

9. I HOPE YOU SIMPLIFY: Happy moms know they can’t do it all – so they find what is most important. Find what is good. Find what is better. And then find what is BEST! And focus on your list of “bests!” Time goes fast – so don’t think you have to do it ALL. Just do what you can.

10. I HOPE YOU CHERISH THE LITTLE THINGS: Because happy moms know that one day the little things, will actually be the big things. Oh, please. CHERISH every minute of being a mom. People will tell you it goes fast, but dear daughter I am telling you – it goes faster than you can imagine. Cherish the snuggles. Cherish the kisses. Cherish the sleepless nights and dirty diapers. Cherish the middle of the night wake up calls. Cherish the piles of laundry. Cherish the “I wuv you’s” and cherish the dirty finger prints on your windows. Cherish every little thing.

11. LASTLY, I HOPE YOU REMEMBER YOUR VERY OWN TWO-YEAR-OLD WORDS: “Shhhh…. it’s okay baby! I am here!”

Happy moms know that they are never alone and they know they can’t do it alone. You are my baby – and I will ALWAYS be here for you. Thanks for making ME a happy mom!

Danielle is the owner of Today's the Best Day. She strives to provide creative and uplifting content in order to enrich the parenting experience for women everywhere. Danielle hopes to help you and your family to make every day the best day!

September 21, 2015 by Danielle Davis | 8 Comments