5 Things To Remember When You Go Through Change

Six months ago today {soo crazy by the way!! Time FLIES!} my husband walked in the door and said, “You wanna move to Utah?!” I would be lying to all of you if I didn’t say EVERY emotion EVER ran through my mind at that moment.

The only other time I had ever moved states in my whole entire life was when I moved to Las Vegas from California when I was 8 years old – so Las Vegas was home for me. Everything that I have ever known or loved or been a part of or had memories at or felt comfortable in… was in Vegas.

“Soooo DO I wanna move to Utah?!” I asked myself… “I THINK so?!” haha!

The truth is, change is so dang hard! And moving is a HUGE change. To pack up everything you own and move your family to a new place is probably one of the scariest things we can do! I am a planner and so the unknown of it all was beyond nerve racking for me.

Moving brought on a lot of different feelings for me. I was SO happy for my husband’s new career, but I was SO heartbroken to say goodbye to our dearest family & friends & neighbors. I was SO excited for a new adventure, but I was SO overwhelmed with my list of things to do! I was SO stoked to live closer to my siblings, but I was SO worried about finding the right area, house, school, & church. I felt SO blessed for the opportunity that had come into our lives, but I felt SO defeated in trying to do it all & finding the good in every situation that came our way.

My house was quickly flipped upside-down with boxes galore and moving tape & bubble wrap in every corner. We had 2 weeks to pack up, find a house, get a moving truck and move our whole lives to a brand new state that I had never lived in.

Six months have flown by and I have learned so much in these few months of major change. Today I want to tell you…my Bestie…. who is going through a big change in your life right now –  FIVE things that I have learned from this experience & change in my life.

1. GIVE YOURSELF TIME – Through this season of your life, you may have moments where you want to snap your fingers and flash forward a year so you can skip this messy part of the change in your life – but girl. Time is such a beautiful thing! We need it. We need to experience the hard times right now, so we can recognize the beautiful blessings that are right around the corner!

Give yourself time. Time to heal. Time to cry. Time to be happy. Time to make friends. Time to get comfortable. Time to change. You won’t become the person you are supposed to be after this change if you jus fast forward and skip it all. Give yourself time to LIVE…to feel…to learn…and to grow.

2. BLOOM WHERE YOU ARE PLANTED – I hope you will print this quote and stick it somewhere you will see every single day. I LOVE the word BLOOM. It isn’t “survive” where you are planted. or “live” where you are planted. or “be” where you are planted. The word is BLOOM. To truly become the incredible flower or woman that you are meant to become!

You were born for this! You were made for this change!

I have also created a 31 Day Challenge To Bloom that you can find HERE to help you! So every day for the next month, you will be able to find a little way to not just grow or change – but to truly BLOOM no matter where you are! or what stage of life you might be in! Or what trial you are currently fighting!

3. PUT YOURSELF OUT THERE – *gulp* as I type this. I always thought growing up, that once you became an adult, everyone was friends. There weren’t any cliques. Everyone accepted everyone. And life was magical. But oh my heavens – I was so wrong.

Being an adult and trying to make friends through changes in our lives is probably the hardest thing I have experienced. It’s SO hard putting yourself out there! It’s SO hard making friends! It’s SO hard to make real connections! It takes so much courage and so much strength and so much confidence to go up to someone and be like “Hi! Let’s be friends!”

Get out there. They won’t come to you – you HAVE to go to them. Join your community Facebook Page. Go to church. Go to the park. Say hi to your neighbors. And if you aren’t invited to the party – by golly you MAKE the party! Ask someone if they want to go to lunch or dinner with you. Ask someone if they want to have a playdate. Ask someone if you can sit by them. Create that conversation and make a REAL connection with them.

4. KNOW THAT YOU AREN’T ALONE – Never forget that you aren’t the only one going through a big change in your life. You are NEVER alone. Someone is going through a very similar experience than you are right now & maybe you can help each other out.

I once read a book about a man who had cancer. He was feeling SO sorry for himself and hated feeling the way he did about it. SO that was when he came up with the “5 Minute Pitty Party!” Every morning he allowed himself to be sad. Or to be angry. Or to feel alone. Or to feel those NORMAL emotions that come with hard trials & changes in our lives for FIVE minutes. He even set a timer. But once those 5 minutes were up – he forced himself to get out of bed, shower, and do GOOD throughout the day – not thinking of himself & his situation.

Feelings are real. Let your emotions out through changes. But make sure you remember that you are SO much braver & stronger than you think you are! And that you CAN do hard things!! So give yourself those 5 minutes – but then GO & DO some incredibly awesome things!

5. FIND THE BRIGHT SIDE – I have tears in my eyes as I type this last one, because it holds a very special place in my heart. In the beginning of the year as we were brainstorming our theme for 2019 for our Bestie Squad we came up with “Find The Bright Side” as the slogan. We decided against “ON the Bright Side” or “BE the Bright Side” – because the word FIND is so specific and special.

You guys, we aren’t always naturally going to be ON the bright side – but I promise that you can FIND the bright side no matter where you are. No matter what you are going through. No matter what change is flying into your life right now – I promise the bright side is where you are – you JUST have to find it.

The grass isn’t always greener on the other side – the grass is greener where you water it. AND if the grass looks greener on the other side – it’s probably because it is fake. YOU are real. YOUR life is real. Let’s be too busy focusing on OUR bright side, that we don’t even notice the other greener or faker grass. Let’s find the BRIGHT side right where you are. RIGHT NOW.

Bestie…Through this change in your life right now, I hope that you know how incredible you are! I am SO happy to have you be a part of our community! Don’t forget these 5 reminders that will get you through each season of CHANGE in your life. You can do this. You are THE. BEST.

xoxo Danielle

Danielle is the owner of Today's the Best Day. She strives to provide creative and uplifting content in order to enrich the parenting experience for women everywhere. Danielle hopes to help you and your family to make every day the best day!

September 5, 2019 by Danielle Davis | 1 Comment