Our first home was a little one bedroom apartment. It was perfect for just the two of us. When you opened the front door, you could stand there and see our whole place. I remember my favorite feature being that I could plug my vacuum into the electric socket in my bedroom and vacuum my WHOLE house without unplugging it. I began in my bedroom, moved on to the bathroom, then kitchen and finally the living room. The cord literally reached from one end of our little home to the other. We loved living there. It was perfect!
My dad’s job then took my parents to California, so to help with their house, Tyson and I moved into their beautiful established home. This was completely different than what we were use to. We suddenly had a master bedroom, guest bedrooms, a loft, two stories, an office and even our own swimming pool. I definitely couldn’t vacuum the whole house with one electric socket. 😉 We loved living there. It was perfect!
We continued moving around the city and are now in our fourth home. It is cozy and comfortable for our little family of three. Some say it looks like a little doll house. We love living here. It is perfect!
When I think of the word “house” I think of bare walls, empty cupboards and clean floors. It most likely {but not always} has walls and a roof for protection. My husband served a mission for our church in Cambodia, where their houses were constructed with brick, metal sheets and dirt floors.
No matter the living condition, the size or what our houses are made of, we each have the opportunity to make our house a home.
One of my favorite songs from Primary is called Our House Becomes a Home. The first verse says:
Our house becomes a home when it’s filled with charity,
When caring loved ones always treat each other tenderly.
Our house becomes a home when we live in harmony.
Together we can make our house a home.
A house has walls and windows; a home is something more—
A smile in ev’ry corner, and love at ev’ry door.
Our house becomes a home when there’s joy and gladness there,
When cheerful voices greet us and sweet music fills the air.
Our house becomes a home when there’s happiness to share.
Together we can make our house a home.
With each of our four houses we have lived in, we have made them our home. Through love and laughter. Through uplifting television shows and wholesome music. Through prayers and having Christ the center of our home. Through forgiveness, selflessness, service and kindness.
Now that I have a baby, I learned first handedly how hard it is to make my “house” LOOK like a “home.” When I think of a “home” I think of perfection. No dishes in the sink. Spotless counters. Stainless floors. Dusted shelves. Toys in cubby holes. And everything in order. BUT I tell you today, I now know that that actually isn’t what a home is. “Home is where your heart is” is what they say. And I am sure ALL of our hearts are full of love for our families. In that case, I believe that “HOME is where your FAMILY is”… and if my family is in my home, my house is not going to be spotless. I have a one year old! There will be dishes in the sink because we like to eat! There will be spots on the counters because sometimes we make messes when I try to cook with a baby on my hip. There will be stains on the floors from spilling her sippy cup of apple juice. There will be dust on the shelves, because I would rather play than dust. Toys will not be on the shelves and everything will not be in order because we like to have fun!
My challenge for you today and this upcoming month is to make your house a home. No matter how big or small our houses are…Whether you can vacuum your whole house with one electric socket or you have to unplug it 10 times, we can make them become HOMES. Make your child’s bed, write a note to your husband and put it on his pillow, buy a special treat for your children to wake up to, play a family game, watch a family movie, have a dance party… bring happiness into your home. It doesn’t have to look good – it just has to feel good.
“There is beauty all around, When there’s love at home; There is joy in every sound, When there’s love at home. Peace and plenty here abide, Smiling sweet on ev’ry side. Time doth softly, sweetly glide,When there’s love at home.” – Love At Home
Pam
January 22, 2014 at 1:41 am (11 years ago)Love this post! Making a home for my family is never ending. The older I get, the more I try to bring back things from my or my husbands childhood, and our past. Keeping or making traditions with your kids is a definite must. Always keep them wanting more of the good things that “you” bring into the family. (such as the best meal you ever made…don’t make it all the time and only share your “secret” recipe, with your children when they move out on their own!). Trading books, or getting out old family photos a few times a year, to look at together and reminisce. FLOWERS….. If gardening is your thing…leave a curtain open so whoever is looking out a window, can see your enjoyment, in turn, giving them a memory of you! (snipping or smelling fresh flowers fruit etc.) Maybe entice them to join you in the fun. Leaving little notes on mirrors or the front door or in lunch boxes, so they can see you are thinking about them! Create everyday! Often have intimate moments with your loved ones one on one. Close the doors to the outside world, turn off the tv, and focus on each others thoughts, feelings etc. Its all these little moments that will bring everyone home again. *smiles*
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Danielle Davis
January 22, 2014 at 6:44 pm (11 years ago)I LOVE all of your insights, Pam! Every one of those are so true. I do want something (or a few things) that Laila will always think of when she thinks of her home!! Thank you for your sweet comment and wonderful ideas!!
Me And My Mini Me
January 22, 2014 at 1:01 am (11 years ago)I completely know what you mean. I’ve been through a similar situation. we’ve moved around quite a bit as well and no matter where we go I make sure to put up pictures and things that make it feel more homey. I love the pictures of you and your daughter. You girls are just so adorable. I look forward to connecting with you more
Danielle Davis
January 22, 2014 at 6:43 pm (11 years ago)Exactly!! Pictures always make the house feel more like “home” that is for sure! Thank you so much – I look forward to connection more as well!
Kimber
January 21, 2014 at 8:48 pm (11 years ago)What a great post! I’ve realized lately that a nice way to make home feel ‘homey’ is just to light a nice-smelling candle. There’s something about a comforting smell that makes a house feel like a home!
Danielle Davis
January 22, 2014 at 6:42 pm (11 years ago)Oh that is SO true!! I always have a nice smelling candle going! My favorite actually is a scentsy burner! 🙂 Thanks Kimber!