I was always told in order to be a “successful influencer/blogger” that I needed to be an “EXPERT” at something.
You know – like an expert DIY-er. Or fashion police. Or budgeter. Or hairstylist. Or makeup artist. Or mom. Or wife. Or chef. Or athlete.
Because people want to follow people that will teach them something.
And I totally get it – as an influencer, you need to create value for your readers to even want to follow you or want to “swipe up” to read what you have to say.
But over the past few weeks I have been thinking a LOT about this. Because often times a little voice inside of my head whispers….no the voice literally YELLS at me and says… “WHYYYY are you doing what you are doing?! You are NOT an expert at anything!”
And I sit at my computer with a blank mind, giving into the voice and saying, “YOU ARE RIGHT. What the heck am I doing?!”
To be honest – I am not a crafty DIY-er and I absolutely hate taking pictures of myself for fashion. My husband does most of our budgeting and I have no idea what I am doing with my hair and makeup. I am not a perfect mom or wife and I actually dread making dinner every night. And I force myself to get my booty to the gym strictly because I know it’s where I should be – not because I enjoy it. 🙂
So I throw my hands in the air and tell the voice in my head – “You’re right! I am no expert! Who am I to have a “squad” of women?!”
But this morning I opened up my messages on Instagram and skimmed a looong list of emails that I have been neglecting because #summertime and as I have been clicking them one by one…I have tears filling my eyes and I have found myself typing away writing this article to you!
Because it just hit me. Like BAM!! Being an online influencer is SO much more than being an “expert” or “pro” at something.
I didn’t start this website to teach about fancy crafts or how to cook like a gourmet chef…that isn’t me. I didn’t start it to share $100 shirts that I will never buy or wear… that isn’t me either. I get my clothes at Ross, H&M, cute boutiques, small shops and Target. I didn’t start it to show the world my fancy hair style or perfect makeup…I am winging all that stuff a lllll day errrr day.
But I did start it for a reason…I started it for YOU. For the woman reading this.
I started it for the woman who wants to be a mom SO bad, but it’s not happening. I have been there. I know how it feels. THIS is for you.
I started it for the woman who is exhausted from holding a fussy baby all day and night and desperately needs SLEEP. I have been there. I know how it feels. THIS is for you.
I started it for the woman who loves being a mom, but her kids are driving her bonkers with crayons on the walls and poop smeared in the crib. I have been there. I know how it feels. THIS is for you.
It’s for the woman who needs a friend. Who has tons of friends. Who is married. Who is single. Who is happy. Who is sad. Who is stressed. Who is discouraged. Who is confused. Who is excited.
I started it for ALL women, no matter what you look like, how much money you make, what you like to do, or what you believe – to come and be a part of a community of like-minded women who WANT to be happy. Simple, right?!
You want to know the truth? Although it has taken me a few years to realize this {#embarrassing} – we are ALL “experts” or “pros” at SOMETHING. Each of us have been given gifts that are unique to US – which makes this life so perfect. I am grateful there are experts out there who can teach me about DIY and what to wear and how to save my money and what to cook and how to workout.
But you know what I am a PRO at?
I am a PRO-lover of my family. I am a PRO-Oreo dunker in milk. I am PRO-Target shopper. I am PRO-forgiver. I am a PRO-happiness seeker. I am a PRO-hugger. I am a PRO-mom and wife who totally makes mistakes but absolutely tries my best. I am a PRO-shoulder to cry on. I am PRO-listener. And I am a PRO-picker upper…when I fall I will pick myself up and try again, again and again.
I may not be able to teach you how to refurbish your dresser or make a delicious six course meal… but you know what I CAN do for you?
I can be your friend. I can help you find a LITTLE bit of happiness. I can help you feel normal, in a crazy fake Social Media world. I want to help you find JOY. I want to show you how much you are stinkin’ WORTH because girl – you are worth more than allll the diamonds and rubies in the world. I want to motivate you! Encourage you! Believe in you! And show you that no matter WHAT the world tells you or what you even tell yourself – YOU are amazing! YOU can do hard things! YOU are needed! YOU are irreplaceable! YOU are MORE than enough. YOU are everything!
I want to be your cheerleader. Your listening ear. Your friend. Your BESTIE.
What I have learned this morning is that no matter what is holding you back right now – put it behind you and FLY way above it. Don’t let someone tell you that you have to be an “expert” in order to be successful. NO body is perfect. And heck, we can be “pros” at whatever we WANT!
…even if that’s a PRO- Target shopper in slippers and a messy bun! 😉
You don’t have to be like everyone else. You don’t have to dress, talk, teach, mimic, or do what everyone else does. Just like Dr. Seuss said, “Today you are YOU, that is truer than true. There is NO ONE alive that is YOUER that YOU!” Don’t try to be perfect – just try to be the best YOU.
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Danielle is the owner of Today's the Best Day. She strives to provide creative and uplifting content in order to enrich the parenting experience for women everywhere. Danielle hopes to help you and your family to make every day the best day! 
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