All Moms Need Friends

I have always been a people person. I love to socialize and visit with friends. I love to go on lunch dates, dinner dates… oh, I even love to go on breakfast dates too! I have always been that girl who strikes up a conversation with the woman behind me in line at the grocery store. I have always been that lady who loves meeting new people, making new friends and getting to know others. I have always tried to keep my schedule busy and full of friends, family and fun.

and then one day, I had a baby.

It’s crazy how your life can can change so quickly.

Our house was suddenly full of toys, diapers, wipes, a stroller, a carseat, a swing and a bouncer. Our days were full of smiles, laughs, cries, kissing boo-boos and going for walks. Our nights consisted of bath time, story time, singing time and prayer time. My hair became darker, denser and rarely washed. And my life was busy, crazy, fun, exhausting, dirty and happy.

Getting out of the house became a difficult task. By the time the baby was fed, I was showered and we both were somewhat clothed – a dirty diaper would appear, keys would go missing and the diaper bag would have no diapers, wipes or treats. By the time I could get out of the house it would be noon – oh, but then it was nap time.

And then just like that…another day would be spent in the house.

Photo by our amazing photographer Christine Olson Photography

One day while rocking my tired baby to sleep, I felt overwhelmed. I needed to get out. I needed to find someone to talk to. To relate to. TO cry with. To laugh with. Someone who understood me, just as I could understand them.

I needed friends. And I realized I wasn’t the only one. ALL moms need friends. In fact, more than EVER, do we need friends.

Did you know that there is a mom right now who is laying in her bed, wishing for the same things as you? There is a mom right now who is trying to calm her fussy baby. There is a mom right now who is trying to make dinner for her family. There is a mom right now who is kissing her baby goodnight. There is a mom right now who is struggling to find a smile. There is a mom right now who is trying to not lose her temper as her toddler gets into everything. There is a mom right now who is feeling alone. There is a mom right now who doesn’t know what to do with all of her children. There is a mom right now who would do anything to be pregnant. There is a mom right now who feels tired and needs time for herself. There is a mom right now who is pleading, looking and wanting someone to talk to, laugh with and be with.

Have you seen this?!

Each of us have been that mom. That mom who needed a hug. That mom who needed a smile. That mom with a dirty shirt. That mom with a crying baby. That mom looking for a friend. That mom who just wants a play date. That mom who needed to know she was doing alright.

There are 3 things to keep in mind as a mom:

1. HAVE CONFIDENCE: Take pride in who you are! You’re a good mom and you are in such a fun season of life. Embrace the dirty shirts, the piles of laundry, the mac-n-cheese, the toys everywhere and the unwashed hair. All of the other moms out there are feeling the same way too.

2. OPEN YOUR MOUTH: Don’t be afraid to go up to someone and introduce yourself. Say hi to that mom on the park bench. Strike up a conversation with that woman by the pool. Say hello to the girl in line. Stop and chat with that lady at the school you always see. Sit by the new girl at church. And go up to the mom that even looks like she has it all together – because often times, she’s just like you.

3. REMEMBER, YOU AREN’T ALONE: YOU are officially a part of the team… the MOM team. We all know what a bad day is. We all know what a good day is. We may all struggle with different things, but we definitely all struggle. You are not alone.

It’s not easy being a mom and it is definitely not easy having friends as a mom. Our children are our priorities. We have to cancel because of sickness. We have to reschedule because of a hard night’s sleep. We have to change times because of naps and we have to say “no” because we are just too busy.

“The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.” – Margaret D. Nadauld

As women, we must stick together – because we ALL need friends. I know I do… and you probably do too.

Danielle is the owner of Today's the Best Day. She strives to provide creative and uplifting content in order to enrich the parenting experience for women everywhere. Danielle hopes to help you and your family to make every day the best day!

October 29, 2014 by Danielle Davis | 3 Comments