It’s Not Easy Being A Mom

It’s not easy being a blogger.

Did you know everyday when bloggers write an article and publish it out into the Internet, it has potential to reach 3 BILLION people. According to Internet Live Stats, in 2016 there have been that many internet users in the entire world! SO crazy!

Putting yourself out there is NOT easy. There are going to be the lovers and there will definitely be the haters. In fact, my FAVORITE thing about having a website, is hearing from other women! I love hearing your stories, your trials, your kind thoughts and getting to know each of you individually. If I have learned anything – I have learned that EVERYONE is different.

Each of us have our own individual trials. And life can be hard for every single one of us. And when I mean hard, I mean really hard.

I recently heard from a young mom of four. She was so kind about an article that I had recently written and she made me feel so good! But suddenly everything changed. Her praises turned into criticism. And her positive thoughts became negative. She then continued and explained how much harder her life was, than mine. With four children of her own, she was more experienced in the “Motherhood” role than I, and in her eyes, I had it much easier than her.

And then she stated, “It’s not easy being ME.”

My immediate reaction was to “not care” and brush it off. BUT I am a girl and I have feelings. Often times when I say, “I’m so over it. I don’t even care.” it means the COMPLETE opposite. That really I am not over it and it is nagging at me. It started to hurt and then I realized…

She was right. It’s not easy being her.

Photo by Brittany Busk Photography 

No matter how old or young you are. No matter how many children you have. No matter where you live, how much money you have or what your talents are… being a mom is hard.

In reply to this woman, I say the following:

To the woman who wants to be a mom, but for some reason isn’t able to be one right now: It’s not easy being you. Praying and hoping for your miracle is one of the most emotional times in life. To see everyone have something, you would do pretty much ANYTHING for – is devastating. To have something constantly on your mind and not knowing why you aren’t able to have a child of your own is completely heartbreaking. It is truly physically, emotionally and mentally draining. YOU don’t have it easy.

To the pregnant mom who is uncomfortable, sick, constantly nauseas, gaining weight and emotional: It’s not easy being you. Spending your day in the bathroom, struggling to find clothes that fit and constantly worrying about the little baby inside of you that you have never even met – can be miserable. Craving the strangest foods, but gagging at the very sight or smell of your old favorite meal is frustrating. Tossing and turning every night and trying to “get your rest before the baby comes” feels impossible. YOU don’t have it easy.

To the new mom who is living off of one hour of sleep today, because your baby just DOESN’T sleep: It’s not easy being you. Waking up every hour, trying to rock the baby patiently back to sleep as you close your eyes and nursing or bottle feeding as you just dream of the day you could sleep for a four hour period without interruptions, is exhausting.   Begging for your husband, your mom, your friend, ANYONE to come take a “turn” so you can sleep for just a few hours and then having to pick yourself up in the morning like nothing ever happened the whole night…YOU don’t have it easy.

To the mom who has one child, and may only have one child your whole life: It’s not easy being you. Whether one is all you would like or you are unable to have any more because of your physical needs, having one child a challenge. Devoting your whole heart and soul into this miracle of yours and wanting them to become the best they can be, while teaching them numbers, shapes, letters, songs, sports and social skills is a lot of work! YOU are a mom and YOU don’t have it easy.

To the mom who has several children and maybe even another on the way: It’s not easy being you. I may not know this from experience, but my sister has five children and I talk to her almost everyday. Not only are you a mom – you are multi-tasking QUEEN. Driving children here and there, friends coming in and out of your house for playdates constantly, helping with homework, playing with the littles, feeding the baby all while making dinner, packing lunches and giving each individual child your attention… YOU don’t have it easy.

To the mom who is able to stay at home with your children: It’s not easy being you. As much of a blessing it is to have the opportunity to spend so much time at home and be in their lives, house-life can be chaotic. Between kissing boo-boos, wiping tears, potty training, story time, homework helping, play time and days where you just hope to survive – YOU don’t have it easy.

To the mom who goes to work everyday, providing for your family: It’s not easy being you. Working all day and then coming home to family is a LOT of work. How do you do it?! Getting off a 9-hour shift and having to make dinner, bathe the babies and get them in bed – and then having to wake up early to go back to work the next day… you are a busy woman! Providing for your family is a lot of pressure and you are doing what is best for your family. YOU don’t have it easy.

To the mom who is tired. To the mom who is overwhelmed. To the mom who tries her best every day. To the mom who fakes a smile. To the mom who pushes through everyday…. YOU don’t have it easy.

It’s not easy for any of us.

I hope we can be more loving. I hope we can be less judgmental. I hope we can show more kindness. I hope we can be more supportive. Because at the end of the day – It’s not easy being me. And it’s not easy being YOU either.

What would you do if you were told that your life was easy and you knew that wasn’t true? I would love to hear from you! 

Danielle is the owner of Today's the Best Day. She strives to provide creative and uplifting content in order to enrich the parenting experience for women everywhere. Danielle hopes to help you and your family to make every day the best day!

October 17, 2016 by Danielle Davis | 8 Comments