To The Woman Who Gets To Be A Mom This Mother’s Day

To the world I look like an average mom of a three-year-old. Who goes to the park, shops at Target and wears yoga pants with a messy bun 90% of my life. But little do they know, that I am the luckiest.

Why am I the luckiest? Well…it’s simple…because I am a mom.

Being a mom is something I have always dreamed of. I spent countless mornings, afternoons and nights on my knees pleading for a miracle. I spent hundreds of hours in doctor’s offices running tests, performing procedures and having surgeries. I spent numerous nights crying into a pillow wondering “why me?!” and “why doesn’t ANYTHING go my way?!” I spent many hours faking smiles at baby showers, smiling through tears seeing seven pregnancy announcements on Facebook a day. AND I spent years dreaming of having a baby bump, attending my own baby shower and making a cute announcement for my own pregnancy.

The very thought of Mother’s Day brought me sadness and sometimes even anger. I couldn’t stand to see my friends, sisters and even strangers have babies, when it was all I ever wanted. It was a righteous desire that I knew was something that I was supposed to become and have in my life, but it just wasn’t happening.

And then one day a miracle happened.

After a few very invasive procedures, my life completely changed. The dream I had dreamt of for so long was coming true. The baby I had prayed for, I held in my arms. And the name I had always hoped to be called, was my new official name…Mom.

Today I write to you women who have the special opportunity to be mothers this Mother’s Day. Coming from a woman who was childless for many Mother’s Days and felt a deep heartache that is indescribable year after year – I want you to remember these few most important things about the beautiful roll that you hold.

Keep Going. Please…keep going. I think I put this one first, because it is a completely normal and natural feeling as an overwhelmed mom to want to give up. The feeling of simply giving up sometimes seems much easier than working out the hard days of raising children. I know the days are long… SO long… and at times we literally find ourselves counting down the hours until bedtime, but I beg you to never give up. Those babies of yours are precious and NEED you. Being a mom is NOT easy, in fact, it is the hardest job out there. But I promise if you keep going, it is worth it. “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled. They are the ones that never give up despite their struggles.”

Love Deeply. There is NO such thing as too many cuddles. Too many kisses. Too many hugs. Too many laughs. Too many treats {especially donuts and oreos}. Too many late movie nights and staying up past bedtime. Too many family sleepovers in the living room. Too many dance parties. Too many park dates. Too many games in the play room. Too many pictures. Too many memories. And especially there is NO such thing as too many “I love you’s.” Love deeply. Let your family know that they are everything to you.

Don’t Stop Believing. “Hold on to that fee-eee-lin’!'” {You know you sang that too!} But really. Don’t ever forget the incredible role you hold. The incredible difference that you are making in so many lives… DAILY! You are a cook, a housekeeper, a teacher, a referee, a cheerleader, a handy man, a nurse, a taxi driver and a maid. You are also a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, a mouthpiece of advice and a broken heart mender.

Never Take A Day For Granted. I think I may be most passionate about this one because of my struggle with becoming a mom and knowing how it feels to do anything in this world to become one. Although there are dark days in the world of motherhood and times that feel MUCH less than amazing – remember what special blessings your littles are. Just like you are learning how to be a parent, they are learning how to be children. Never let a day pass without them knowing of your love for them and how very special being their mom truly is.

You Are Enough. You do NOT have to perfect {whatever “perfect” means to you}. You do NOT have to live on Pinterest and make your own play dough and have a five-course organic meal every night. You do NOT have to have a perfect family, with a perfect home and a perfect happy life. Because guess what?! Bad days come. And they come HARD. And EVERYONE is fighting their own battle. Don’t compare yourself to others. Take time for you. Remember that life is better when you are laughing. Focus on your family. Have some fun. Ask for help. Learn how to say “no” to others. Do what you can do, in the best way you know.

You are the luckiest. I said I am the luckiest. But YOU are the luckiest too. All MOMS are the luckiest. There are many women who would do ANYTHING in this world to be a mom – who DO go to the ends of the earth to become one, and for some reason it sometimes STILL doesn’t happen. Never forget how blessed you are to hold this sacred, special and irreplaceable role that is motherhood. You will and should be proud of many things in your life – but NOTHING will ever beat being a mother.

Join us on Instagram this week as we celebrate Mother’s Day! Post a picture of YOU being a mom and use the hashtag #IAmTheLuckiest. xoxo 

Danielle is the owner of Today's the Best Day. She strives to provide creative and uplifting content in order to enrich the parenting experience for women everywhere. Danielle hopes to help you and your family to make every day the best day!

May 4, 2016 by Danielle Davis | 2 Comments