Why A Wife Needs A Husband

The other day it was freezing in our house – Winter suddenly arrived over night! As I was pulling down on the string to our ceiling fan, the string completely broke off and I found myself standing under a speedy fan with the string in my hands. I just stood there looking at what I had done – the string lying across my cold palm and back up to the fan that was causing my bedroom to start growing icebergs!

Immediately I texted my husband – “I need you.”

Not more than a few days past and I opened our curtains quickly to let some sunshine in. Once again, it was freezing and I thought maybe letting the sun rays in through the window would help. As I flew them open, the curtain rod fell right down and hit our wood floors. I honestly was scared to open my eyes.

I took a picture of the broken curtains and rod – and texted my husband – “I need you.”

Just yesterday I was unloading the groceries and I opened up my trunk to start carrying everything in. With my amazing driving skills, I guess I took a turn to sharp or hit a speed bump too fast – because without me knowing, all of our groceries had shifted during our travels and when I opened up the trunk, a gallon of milk fell out and literally exploded on our driveway.

I took a picture of it and texted my husband – “I need you.”

Over this past week I have really realized as a wife —- I need my husband.

I need him for more reasons than just fixing a broken fan or to help carry in groceries. I need him more than just putting gas in my car when it warns me I have 5 more miles left in the tank. I need him for more than just ironing my skirts on Sunday and spending time with the baby so I can have a little break. I need him for more than just these tangible things that I have a hard time doing – In fact, I need him for a lot more than that.

You men, we know you have a lot on your shoulders. Being a husband can be hard! Women can be demanding and your children can require a lot of time and energy. Juggling school, a job and trying to find time for your family and maybe a few minutes here and there for yourself can be a challenge.

But today we’re breaking it down and talking about your wife and why YOU are important to her! These are the reasons she NEEDS you. You aren’t just that man who put a ring on her finger. You aren’t just that guy that comes home every now and then and eats food. You aren’t just that hard working fella that brings in all the dough so we can go shopping. And I promise, {although it may seem that you are – especially from my stories above} that you aren’t just that guy who we text when we need help to fix something.

You are our MEN! You are our HUSBANDS! You are our PARTNERS! You are our BETTER HALVES!

And we need you.

Images on this post are by our amazing photographer Ms Wedding Image

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1. SHE NEEDS CONFIDENCE DURING UNCERTAINTY: Nobody can boost a woman’s self esteem more than a man. A girl can tell us we look skinny or our hair looks pretty and it definitely makes us feel good. But when a man says it, our confidence sky rockets. As women we go through a lot of changes, a lot of hormones and a lot of uncertainties. But as a husband, you can play a huge part in helping to build that confidence.

Emma Stone said, “Confidence is the only key. I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid to be herself.” As women we want to be confident in who we are – by supporting, complimenting and encouraging, you can play a big role in this.

2. SHE NEEDS A CALM DURING A STORM: As women we can get frazzled and worked up – by keeping your cool and calming us down your help makes a difference. It is always good when a husband and wife can balance each other out. In our marriage, I am a little crazy and my husband is pretty chill – it works. When one is worked up, the other should try to balance and help.

3. SHE NEEDS A LISTENING EAR DURING A VENT: Sometimes we just need to talk and for someone to listen. Put down your phone. Turn off the tv. Close the computer. And listen to what we have to say, even if you have heard it a million times.

4. SHE NEEDS A HUG DURING FRUSTRATION: After she vents, give her a hug. There is nothing better than a hug from your husband. Hold her tight and let her know you understand and that everything is going to be okay.

5. SHE NEEDS A LAUGH DURING A CRY: Crack a joke. Make her smile.

6. BUT SOMETIMES SHE NEEDS A CRY DURING A CRY: As a married couple, you experience good and bad – and sometimes she just needs you to cry with her. You don’t always have to be tough. Cry together and be there for each other.

7. SHE NEEDS TO FEEL FORGIVENESS DURING MISTAKES: Nobody is perfect – she isn’t and neither are you. Work it out, forgive her and carry on. Forgiveness also includes not bringing it back up in the future.

8. SHE NEEDS TO FEEL SUPPORT DURING GOOD AND BAD: Celebrate her successes! Be happy for her accomplishments and things she works hard on. Support her in her decisions and be her biggest fan.

9. SHE NEEDS A COMPLIMENT DURING TIMES OF DOUBT: Be the one to tell her she is beautiful. Be the one to tell her she did a great job. Be the one to tell her that you are proud of her. Be the one to make her feel love. A compliment can go a LONG way.

10. SHE NEEDS TO BE A PRIORITY DURING A BUSY SCHEDULE: Make sure she knows that she is on the top of your list – that no work or school is more important than her.

11. SHE NEEDS TO FEEL PROTECTED DURING TIMES OF HURT: When others hurt her emotionally, stand up for your wife. Be a protector and don’t let anyone bring her down.

12. SHE NEEDS TIME WITH JUST YOU DURING FAMILY TIME: Family time is important – being with the kids is so fun and definitely a priority. But there is nothing better than husband and wife time. Put the kids to bed and do something special for her. Get a babysitter and take her out. Have one-on-one time with just her – the kids will grow and marry themselves and it will just be the two of you again one day. Cherish each other and strengthen your marriage.

13. SHE NEEDS SOMEONE TO DEPEND ON DURING THE DAY: Who is going to text her all day to make the day go by quick? You, her husband. Who is going to send her pictures of funny faces or things that remind you of her that make her laugh out loud while she is out and about? You, her husband. She needs you to be there for her all day, every day – even when you physically aren’t together.

14. SHE NEEDS A LEADER DURING PROBLEMS: Be the man of the house and lead the family on the right path. Encourage family prayer, going to church, traveling and making memories. When you lead by example, it is so helpful for the family to follow. More people are watching you than you know.

15. SHE NEEDS A FRIEND ALL THE TIME: You can be your wife’s best friend – all the time. You don’t have to wait until she is sad or upset. You don’t have to wait until she is needing you for something. You can be her friend right now – while she is happy! While she is good! While she is finding joy! A friend is someone who is there for her all the time. No matter what.

16. SHE NEEDS A PARTER DURING LIFE: Lastly, she needed you yesterday. She needs you today. And she will need you tomorrow. She wants to spend forever with you! She wants you to be the one to enjoy every happiness, every trial, every bump, every joy and every second with.

Your wife married you because she loves you. She married you because you made her happy. She married you because you made her feel good, confident, funny and relaxed. Be the husband you know you can be. Be the husband she hopes you to be. Because I promise – your wife needs a husband. And she really just needs you.

Danielle is the owner of Today's the Best Day. She strives to provide creative and uplifting content in order to enrich the parenting experience for women everywhere. Danielle hopes to help you and your family to make every day the best day!

November 19, 2014 by Danielle Davis | 2 Comments